As a single mom, like me, you may find yourself a bit overwhelmed at times. I mean raising a child is no easy task, and to compile that with having multiple kids and an absent parent, it can be very difficult at times. Not to worry, this is all a part of parent-hood. Just think about it, you are now in the position of handling issues that would have normally been handled by both parents. I have compiled a few tips and tricks that I have learned over the years that will help you on your way to becoming an effective single parent by first taking care of yourself.
Never be afraid to ask for help
There are many organizations set in place to help with single parent resources. And studies have shown that it is far more available to single parent homes, than homes with both parents intact. Also, have a support system in place. This can be family, friends, or even help from your church.Take care of yourself first
I believe the true and effective way to do so would be for you to know your limits. If you feel yourself getting too overwhelmed by taking on so many tasks, slow down and find a quiet place. This can be taking a long short walk, a soothing bath, or even meditation if you choose. The key is to relax. Another thing is to find a hobby that you enjoy. You may decide to read a book, writing, or even crocheting for example. Whatever your hobby is, make sure that it is one that brings you an abundance of calm. And lastly, remember to treat yourself. Motherhood can be tense, but that doesn’t mean that you have to be. Whether it’s getting a massage or a manicure and or pedicure, make sure that you make the focus for that hour on YOU. Your kids will only benefit from this. Keep up a great Attitude through it all
Between work, school, the children activities, and taking care of the home, you may be stretched a bit thinner that you would like to be. But the one of the healthiest ways to raise the kids under those circumstances is not to allow them to experience your frustrations or worries. Just remember to remain positive and follow the first two examples (ask for help, take care of yourself), and you will be fine.They key to raising a healthy happy child begins with you. It may not be glamorous at times. But keep in mind that even though at times you may find it stressful, the reward is greater than the struggle. And contrary to popular belief, we as mothers are not “SUPERWOMEN”. But to do all we do at times is nothing short of being a super-hero in the eyes of our children. Please refer to the link below for additional resources and single parent outlets in your area. http://www.singlemom.com/
What great advice. I am a mother of four and it has taken me 20 years to realize that if I do not stop and take care of myself everyone suffers. Now that I do take "me" time I am happier and have more energy to spend time with my kids.I am also less resentful of my husband who, in my opinion, always has "me" time.
ReplyDeleteTherese Shaath
Great advice on being a single parent. I definitely agree that it nice to have some quiet time even if just for 30 minutes. I have had support from my husband and never had to be a parent on my own. I admire any women or man that can run a household, work a full time job and raise their kids by themselves. I wish you the best of luck and hope you get the quiet time when needed.
ReplyDeleteYour tips are wonderful, even for those of us with both parents. My husband job is a truck driver, so he was always gone when the kids were small. You have come up with some great sources that will help us all with raising our children. Continue on your path, which seems to be working well.
ReplyDeleteI am not a parent but I have many friends and family members who would probably be better off as a single parent. I feel that kids who grow up with an absent father figure are more likely to be independent. I've seen it with a lot of the kids I choose to be around and I see that as a benefit.
ReplyDeleteI'm also a single mom. I love what you have wrote: "motherhood can be tense, but that doesn't mean you have to be." Perfectly said! You are a wise woman!!
ReplyDeleteI have a 16 and 19 year old that I have raised pretty much alone since birth and their father is just now coming around trying to fix things with them. I am glad to see that you are someone who can bring hope to single moms. Its very hard but if you follow these tips and take care of yourself most importantly it can be done. Both of my children are amazing but its been a hard road and I am so glad that they are becoming self reliant and independent b/c frankly I am exhausted. I have a problem with making time for myself and really need to commit to doing it more often!! Thank you. NANCY RINGO
ReplyDeleteGreat advice!! I'm not a single parent and still find that parenting is hard with 2 ... I can't imagine doing it by myself. Your kids will definitely appreciate you!!
ReplyDeleteLisa Neal
Thank you all! And Lisa, yes parenting even when both parents are present can still be challenging, just know that these tips are good also for couples. The "me time" that I speak about can be also "we time" for both you and your spouse.
ReplyDeleteSimona Muttilib
This tips are great! I think some of these can even help anyone who ever feels overwhelmed!
ReplyDeleteThat very good advice. I like the part that you should take care of yourself. I agree completely to help other and be a mother you have to take care of yourself. Superwomen !!
ReplyDeleteI am not a parent myself, but I do see myself having a family of my own someday. Hopefully I will always be there for my kids.
ReplyDeleteBrian Lesmeister